Growing Pains In Love

Contributed by ~ Niilesh A Raje

Word love reminds me of a beautiful poem, "Love is like a butterfly, it goes where it pleases and it pleases wherever it goes". Love is like a butterfly, was also a 1974 album by Dolly Parton. What intrigue me is the fact what is there in love or a relationship that makes today's youth tickle in their college days. Is love just a nature's way of giving that singular experience which is being plurally felt, witnessing a delicate merger of two souls.

The transition from school life to college life itself brings changes in many aspects of one's life. The change could relate to one having a new set of friends, being a victim of ragging or having a brush with that special girl in your class who warms up your heart only to witness the beginning of a relationship and a new spark of love. So, what makes love conduct like a butterfly? Well, the reasons might be many which includes handling one's possessiveness, one's ego or one's jealousy. There might be more but one can be assured of the above three.

By not returning back the calls or responding to the SMS an individual displays an inflated feeling of pride by proving their superiority over their loved ones which is nothing but displaying one's exalted ego. Sometimes, it's an individual's excessive desire to possess the loved one's which results in exhibiting an act of possessiveness. In relationship at times one of the partner's achievements in personal, professional or career life are making such a sparkling difference on their roads to achievements that one of the partner becomes a green-eyed monster giving them a feeling of jealousy towards their loved one's as they feel that there might be a good chance of the better half going out of their reach and meeting some one else on their roads to achievement.

Whatever might be the reason the fact remains that instead of narrowing down the split in the relationship it starts widening up and a crack starts developing up in such relationships and it is that crack which makes love conduct like a butterfly. Each of the partner then decides to go their way and part their ways. It takes time for an person to come out of the woods of a broken heart but it's only with passage of time one comes out of those woods leaving them totally despondent and dejected. A message for today's youth would go well if one remembers the quote rightly said by George Bernard Shaw, "First love is only a little foolishness and a lot of curiosity".